I owe you a letter

“I owe you a letter” I said.

We were exchanging sad, frustrated messages, about climate change. This has been a summer of extreme heat across Europe – burning mountains and moors, empty reservoirs, record-breaking temperatures.

“Don’t ever feel you owe me a letter,” she replied.

She was right, of course. I’d expressed myself poorly. What I’d meant by “I owe you a letter” was actually “I loved receiving and reading your letter. I’m looking forward to finding an evening soon when I can sit down and take the time to write one in return.” Continue reading

The unbearable sadness of rice cakes

A loaf of bread on a wooden cutting board

 

Oh bread.

Lovely, lovely bread. How I miss you.

Hot, buttery toast, with a slick layer of Marmite floating on the surface. Crusty hunks of sourdough, topped with curls of unsalted French butter. Pulled pork with ‘slaw and barbecue sauce in a big soft bap. Floaty white boats in a bowl of tomato soup. Chip butty with ketchup as a dirty treat when DorkyDad is away on a work trip. Wholemeal pitta, stuffed with cream cheese and avocado, and if I’m feeling fancy then some chopped up pepperoncini or za’atar sprinkled in among it. Continue reading

Soundtrack to an uncool life

I realised the other night, as I was waiting for Nagi Maehashi’s Vietnamese pork dish to caramelise and singing a London Grammar song into my spatula, that both of my last two blog posts have mentioned music.

It felt like a sign. Time for my music and snobbery piece to break free of the drafts folder, expand beyond its initial brief, and become a celebration of music in all its forms.

Because there has always been a hierarchy in music – a sense that some bands are cool and others deeply uncool. I have spent most of my life cheerfully on the wrong side of that divide.

And honestly? I think I’ve had more fun because of it.

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A Marriage in Meals

A bucket of raw oysters with the text 'a marriage in meals'Even though DorkyDad and I don’t eat out a lot – maybe lunch once a fortnight and dinner once every six weeks – the freedom to go into a bar or restaurant and take our time over a meal is one of the things we are missing a lot at the moment.

With that in mind, I decided to republish this piece of writing. It was originally published on xoJane five or six years ago, but that site has since been bought and retired by Time Inc, so the post disappeared into the great internet graveyard. I’ve updated it in a couple of places where I had referred to timings that were no longer accurate, and it feels nice to give it a new home. Continue reading

Binky the Angel Dear Lovey

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When people ask us what traits DorkySon has inherited from us – which they often do, it seems to be one of those questions to which parents are expected to have a well-thought out response – it is always a fairly easy answer.

“He gets his energy from me,” says DorkyDad with a hint of pride in his voice. “Lots of energy. And he gets his stubbornness from his mother.”

“Determination,” I always say with a smile. “It’s determination, not stubbornness. It’s a good thing.”

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